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Why You Should Lie to Yourself

It's a widely accepted truth that honesty is the best policy, yet when it comes to motivating ourselves to take on new challenges, a little self-deception might not be such a bad idea. At its core, the power of lying to yourself lies in its ability to dissolve the paralyzing grip of fear. It's all too common to encounter stories of unfulfilled potential, dreams left on the shelf due to a lack of courage, or the daunting reality that the path to our aspirations is littered with obstacles—some, seemingly insurmountable.

Why You Should Lie to Yourself

Indeed, it's a sobering fact that many of our dreams may remain just that: dreams. However, this realization shouldn't deter us from pursuing them. Instead, it introduces an intriguing proposition: the strategic use of self-deception.

By "lying" to ourselves, we can shift our perspective from a focus on the daunting scale of our ambitions to a more manageable, step-by-step approach. This isn't about deluding ourselves into believing the journey will be easy, but rather, convincing ourselves that each step we take is both achievable and worth the effort. It's about painting a picture in our minds where success is within reach, encouraging us to move forward despite the uncertainties that lie ahead.

This method taps into a fundamental aspect of human psychology: our belief systems powerfully influence our behavior. By adjusting these beliefs, even slightly, we can unlock a reservoir of motivation and resilience we might not have known existed. So, while lying to ourselves might sound counterintuitive, it could be the very thing that propels us towards realizing our most ambitious dreams.

"At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: ‘I have to go to work — as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for — the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm?
But it’s nicer in here …
So you were born to feel ‘nice’? Instead of doing things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands?"
— Marcus Aurelius


Imagine this: regardless of where you stand today, tricking your brain into believing you're capable of more can often lead you to surpass your own expectations. Let's consider a relatable scenario—heading to the gym. Picture those days when motivation is at its lowest, and the couch feels like a magnet.

This is the perfect moment for a little harmless self-deception. Tell yourself, "I'll just do a couple of sets and call it a day." The next thing you know, you're not only powering through a full workout but also enjoying the camaraderie of fellow gym-goers. By the time you head home, you're riding a wave of endorphins, feeling better than you could have anticipated.

And if, by chance, you still don't feel great afterwards, guess what? You've still managed to conquer the inertia of inactivity and achieved something meaningful. This simple act of self-persuasion showcases a profound truth:

by setting the bar just within reach, we often find ourselves clearing it with room to spare. It's a testament to the fact that sometimes, the best way to tackle our goals is to lie our way to the starting line—because once we're there, momentum takes over, and we're capable of achieving far more than we gave ourselves credit for.


In the competitive arena of professional development, a bit of self-deception can be a surprising boon to your confidence. Let's be clear: this isn't about fabricating capabilities or misleading others about your skills—that's a no-go.

Instead, it's about the transformative power of convincing yourself about your own potential and abilities. Imagine you're not the most eloquent speaker, or perhaps your skills in a certain task aren't quite where they need to be. This is where a strategic self-dialogue can make all the difference. By affirming to yourself, "I excel in public speaking," or "I am proficient in this task," you're not just engaging in wishful thinking. You're programming your mind to adopt a growth-oriented mindset.

This process isn't about denying your current limitations but about envisioning your potential. It's a psychological hack: by asserting your competence to yourself, you begin to embody it. Your brain starts to align with this new self-perception, paving the way for increased confidence and capability. As your self-assurance grows, so does your ability to tackle challenges and seize opportunities.

This isn't just about feeling better—it's about performing better because you've convinced yourself that you can


At the heart of overcoming procrastination lies a surprisingly effective strategy: lying to yourself. It sounds unconventional, but it's a powerful antidote to the all-too-familiar voice of laziness. Picture this scenario: faced with the daunting task of writing an article or starting homework, your immediate reaction might be to defer, thinking, "I'll just do it later." But here's where a clever twist in your self-talk can make all the difference.

Instead, try telling yourself, "I'll just tackle a small part for now."

Before you know it, an hour has slipped by, and you're either deep into your homework or you've breezed through the first chapter of your book. This phenomenon isn't just a happy accident; it's a testament to the untapped power of our minds. We often sell ourselves short, underestimating the capability of our own mental processes. Yet, when we strategically deceive ourselves into just beginning a task, we tap into our mind's latent potential. This initial deception acts as a lever, leveraging our innate tendencies for productivity that were overshadowed by inertia.

By mastering this art of self-deception, we can transform "later" into "now," turning potential energy into kinetic achievements. It's about recognizing that control over our mental state is within our grasp; by harnessing it, we unlock a world where procrastination dwindles and productivity flourishes. Embracing this approach means not just dreaming of what could be but actualizing it through the simple act of beginning.

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Welcome to the blog, Angelo Corbelli is a Mechanical Engineering student at FIU with a passion for the aerospace industry as well as health and fitness.

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